在回家的巴士上，兩個婦人分別把兩個手抱的小孩，一男一女，放到我的左右兩邊。

倏然，女孩伸出小手放我我面前，男孩也跟著伸出手，握住了女孩的手。

兩個孩子都好安靜。

 

我一向討厭小孩，但我還是笑了。

 

下車後，兩個婦人抱著孩子往反方向走，孩子們回望，依依不捨地跟對方揮手。

我想，人世間可能真有單純美好的小幸福。

 

1. Researchers have found that women tend to look for mates who are, on average, at least 4 inches taller and 3.5 years older. These preference are universal regardless of culture.

2. Don't let a guy hug you unless you plan to trust him, as oxytocin is released naturally in the female's brain after 20 seconds hugs - triggering your trust circuit. (on the other way round, if guys insist for more than 20 seconds, it's more likely we would give in?)

3. Girls are more likely to trust her partner than he trust her by kiss, hugs and other physical contacts. Oxytocin also causes relaxation and bonding, but male needs to be touched 2 to 3 times more than female to keep up the same level of oxytocin. (That explains why 自古女人皆天真.)

4. Monogamy is determined by gene. Male with longer version of vasopressin receptor gene tend to be a more reliable and trustworthy partners.

5. Men tend to fall in love at first sight more easily than women, as men's brain activity highly focus on visual processing and sex, while women shows activity in more areas, such as gut feelings, attention and memories circuit.

6. Falling in love is an involuntary state of mind, illogical and very close to drug addicts comparing to the effect of cocaine and heroin. This fever brain activity runs on hormones, dopamine, estrogen, oxytocin and testosterone. Dopamine and oxytocin would shut down your logical and critical thinking system.

7. Sex works best for female under low stress, but vice versa for males. (Reali?)

8. Don't pick your first date or go clubbing in the first half of mentstrual cycle. Your judgement will be toasted by rising level of androgen, which determines the sexual surge. However, our brain, in general, will fuction better and thinks quickly due to higher level of estrogen in this period. During the second half of the cycle, progesterone made us less focused and a little slower. Bascially how we react and repond are affected by the hormonal changes in the menstrucal cycle.

9. Scientist has proved that female orgasm do NOTHING with your emotional attachment. (aha!) It's more related to how handsome/good-looking/ symmetrical of your partner.

10. We are born to be good liar detector or particularly good at gut feelings/mind reading, due to our incredible skills in reading facial expressions, interpreting tone of voices, and assessing emotional nauance. We ain't psychic, just we, unlike, baby boys, start to practise the skillset 24 hours after we left the womb.

11. Tomboys are in fact CAH (Cangenital adrenal hyperplasia) girls. CAH is an enzyme deficiency with excess level of testosterone (male hormones), which changes the brain structure.

12.Guys can't understand why gals love to go bathroom together, because that's the only private place on earth we can TALK. Sharing secrets that have romantic and sexual implications help activate those centers in our brain. I have been doing that since 3 and I will be still doing this when I'm going 30.

13. One of the major disappointments we women feel all our lives with our partners - he doesn't feel like social, he doesn't crave long talks- are biologically determined. (Girls have a larger language and memory center than boys in our brains) Afterall, boys will be boys. We could hope for is he's an attentive listener or reach out to peers for girly talk.

14. Don't freak out when u found yourself in the middle of a fight but your boyfriend seems couldn't care less and quickly turn back to the football playoff. He might just miss the signs on your face. Men only pick up signs of sadness on female's face 40% of the time, while females can pick up 90% of the time.

15. Accordingly, burst into tears could grab male brain's attention, but would sometimes become a surprise and distress to men (esp to inexperienced). As men must go through a longer process to interpret the emotional meaning, they might just gettin' impatient and helpless coz they dun want to take the time or simply unable to understand, plus they have no idea how to rectify the situation. (who ask you to rectify, anyway?)

16. Baby girls are able to imprint mother's nervous system environment (other than genes) into her own during her first 2 years. It will become a view that affect her for rest of her life and pass down for several generations. In other words, sisters could have different personality affected by how calm and nuturing their mom are. Also, loving and trust-inducing adults tend to have healthier and smarter babies, and are better able to deal with stress.

If you ain't sure to be happy mom, don't be mom.

17. My mom ever complained she thinks a lot slower shortly after she gave birth to me. Scientist now proved that motherhood changes our brain structrually and fuctionally!! Between 6 mths and the end of pergnancy, woman's brain is actually shrinking, and our brain will resume to normal size 6 months postpartum. Scientists still dunno why but probably the brain is under restructuring for a larger networks of maternal circuits. Meanwhile, women might lack focus other than her babies, always feeling sleepy and sedated.

18. Breast feeding would provide the happiness very close to "deeply in love" but that also has certain drawbacks. It decrease our sexual desire, and prolong the mental fog in our brain (as mentioned above in pt 17)


- Extracted from "The Female Brain".